SĀDHVĪ DHAIRYA PRABHĀ - An Ideal To Restrained Life
Life begins everything to end and ends everything to eventually begin. We were 5, then became 4, but again 5, then to 4 and now to 3. Amidst this journey of 5 to 3 a magic happened. We inclined spiritually. Though it is inconsolable to accept the reality, it even seems quite ahead of time, but reality is life began anew.
Sādhvī Dhairya Prabhā departed for ever, but not on a random note, but as an epitome of how to live a purposeful and restrained life. She wasn’t free of challenges, infact she invited challenges and made sure she lives and wins them with sweet smile. Since her 1st to last breathe she visioned an unusual life. Her vigour, passion, zeal, aspiration were determined. My parents chemistry, their unity, their way of upbringing and sacrifice for their kids, their moral and ethical valves, their determination and what not, anything and everything they gave was definetly without expection, but as an offspring it lets me ponder can I ever repay? For her kids, she made sure my dad brings three different toys for 3 of us, only because we three should share, play together and the eldest one would get chance to make 1st choice. This way she made sure we stay sharing, caring, and respecting each other. In regards to education, most of Bohra kids did their schooling from D.A.V., a well recognised school, then. But we three were enrolled to Sri Sarada Secondary School. When my cousins insisted her to let us 3 join D.A.V. she denied validating 3 reasons:
1. Discipline of SSSS is stern than D.A.V.
2. On the occasion of Diwali, SSSS kids aren’t allowed to attend school in colour dress intead in school dress. Your Grandfather expired on Diwali. Our family, on date, doesn’t encourage the tradition to buy new clothes on Diwali.
3. SSSS gives an alternative to parents to bring lunch during lunch break. She made sure she doesn’t pack lunch early morning 7 but, walk to school in scorching sun with hot lunch boxes, so that we three study healthy.
For our higher studies she made Sādhvī Siddhārth Prabhā give 31 entrance exams, 21 entrance by me and Muni Kaushal Kumār attend FIITJEE. (An advance course of IIT). She made sure we attended varying coaching sessions based on our career options to grow intellectually and stand in line with the competitive world. But it wasn’t so easily available to us, she made sure we attend these sessions travelling in local bus rather than car/auto. When my cousins asked why? She said:
1. Student life isn’t luxury life.
2. They should know the true taste of life. They aren’t burdened with payment of fee/school uniform/ washing clothes/utensils. Only burden is study. After education they have to join well established business of dad. So I want them to live true schooling.
When I expressed my wish to pursue my higher studies abroad, she came up with conditional approval:
1. Don’t ever change your title without our consent.
2. Be an example not a sample.
3. I may reside miles (countries) apart, but can’t fail to recognize your voice. Your voice would reveal if you are on right/wrong path. Even if you are on right path, we might want you back to home country at our will. Don’t live in a misconception that, we (Parents) have invested crores to your studies, who on this earth would let discontinue. To me your life is more valuable than career.
While the above description pictures the stern discipline on her kids, she certainly had a kind heart that melts for us. She gave me freedom to my life as well. She suggested me and Muni Kaushal (Kuldeep Bohra) to shop for our wedding at our will from U.S.A. In span of 4 years, we grabbed all we could excepting 3 things:
1. Bride - groom.
2. In laws wedding outfit.
3.Maternal family’s wedding outfit. *(List of shopping would be intimated later)
Meanwhile, I was bending more towards spirituality, they even found a perfect match for me. In a state of flux, I asked mom what to do; she suggested me to become an ascetic. I was taken aback. I asked if this was your wish then why send abroad or search alliance for me? She smiled and replied – “It’s our duty, today none can question and we can proudly say we gave you everything. Now you decide". This way I saw various versions of mom. Most inspirational version was when siddhārth prabhāji joined P.S.S. She unnumbered her resolutions. Back to back, be it food, delicacies, outfits, accessories, entertainment, list extends pages. Most inspiring was at the age of 36 she along with Aniket muni (Ashok Bohrā) resolved to remain celibate unto death. Undeniably both parents proved to be true partners. After initiation from pușpalatā to Dhairya prabhā she underwent drastic transformation. Since I wasn't by her side in her accetic life, on an unfrequent note I got updates of her life from laities, or other ascetics or relatives. Besides the updates from, Smriti Sabhā, I got to know:
1. She plucked her hair (लोच) by herself.
2. During her fast, when nuns reached her abode to sing self composed songs. She requested them to invest their time in reciting scriptures to her. So that both of their time remains productive.
3. Her fondness for english had no match. Even during fasts the requested Sādhvī Stuti prabhā to recite english songs of Ācārya Tulsī, so that she could by heart it.
4. She carried her handwritten copy Dasvaikālika meaning all through her journey.
Probably the more I get in contact with outer world, I would get to know more secrets of mom. Falling in line, verdicts of, all makes me feel proud, for she lived a true stern ascetic life. Though her life style wasn’t just a sip of coffee, but she definetly awakened numerous lives, who were deep assleep. In school I was tought
माता पिता गुरू देवं But she taught us, your
माता पिता is गुरुदेव He is Dawn for you, Motivates you, Authority for you, One off for you, Defends for you, Mindful for you.
So remain undeniably dedicated to your Gurudev. This was the first and last message by her words and action. I am (we are) indebted to Ācaryā Mahāśramaņa for pouring his unconditional blessings on our family. I wish we always be blessed with such blessings of Guru and parents. May our parents soul attain the supreme goal at the earliest.